One day during the last month, I was talking to a friend about his current job and his upcoming wedding. Sounds like they really have a plan. They will be married in September. They are apartment-hunting right now because they plan to have a family fairly soon. He also plans to ask to be switched to day-shift at work in order to be able to care for the children that will soon be conceived....
Oh you silly, naive young man....
I once had plans like that. I was going to finish my Master's Degree, teach for a year to get my permanent license, then have a child the next year. Well.....I finished the degree in 2007. There were no teaching jobs to be had, so I continued to work at the Youth Center where I still am now in 2011. The Dr. said that once I went off birth control in the summer of 2007, it should take 3 months to get out of my system and we'd be good to go.
I had mixed emotions as he talked. At first, I just thought he was a silly and immature young man. Life never works out according to plan. Didn't he know that by now? On the other hand, I hoped for the best for him. I hoped that things worked out according to his well-thought-out plan. I hoped he never knew the pain of how badly those plans can be messed up and never had to try to salvage the pieces of a plan.
I felt this way about a friend of mine she said that she wanted to get married October 2012 and be pregnant by January 2013. However I was exactly like her naive, my plan for life was to be pregnant at 25 and to have 4 or 5 kids, yes I want a big family (I would like to have more but the DH said no way). I am going to turn 29 next month and we see how well "my life plan" went, zero kids thus far. I wish all the luck to him b/c life shouldn't be this hard for everyone.
ReplyDeleteOh yes, I too remember many a naive conversation and all my plans on scheduling my pregnancy. That was over three years ago and alas, nothing but heartache.
ReplyDeleteI posted earlier and didn't introduce my self as new to your blog. I'm sure you get this question a lot and I have looked all of the internet to figure out how to do it but I really like your calendar in a tab idea is there anyway that you could tell me how you did it?
ReplyDeleteOh yes, I had a plan once. I told my gyno I was going to TTC and she said that I'm a healthy person and I should have no problem, she even prescribed me pnvs. That was 3 years, multiple dr. appts, and hundreds of tests ago. I wish I was still naive..
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